Morning Moments

with Sandra Bivens Smith

Love Speak

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I really wanted to have this post done before Valentine’s Day but time and space just didn’t permit it (or to put it another way, I allowed too much empty space to fill my time). But, better late than never as they say, and since the message is timeless I figured let’s go for it and see what happens.  So, without further adieu, here it is.


Some Interesting Facts:

  • Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine’s Day around 498 A.D.
  • Over $1 billion worth of chocolate is purchased for Valentine’s Day in the U.S.
  • 15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day.
  • Around 3% of pet owners prefer to give Valentine gifts to their pets, as they are more grateful than humans.
  • Physicians of the 1800’s commonly advised their patients to eat chocolate to calm their pining for lost love. (This is my personal favorite!)

Several years ago,(1992) Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called “The 5 Love Languages”.  It was printed in 38 languages and sold around 6 million copies.  In his book, Dr. Chapman tells us that there are five basic love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.  He advises that if we want to meet the needs of our loved one, we need to learn what their unique language is and cater to it.  It’s actually a pretty good study and I would recommend it to anyone who would like to enjoy better relationships with a spouse, children, friends – pretty much any human relationship could benefit.

There is another book about the language of love that I would recommend even more highly,its author is the highest authority on the subject of love.  This book has sold more than 6 Billion copies and has been translated into more than 531 languages..  In this book the author also teaches us 5 love languages, but unlike Chapman, the love language He teaches is not either/or, it’s all or nothing.

You say you love Me?

(1) Language of Obedience Keep my commandments

(2) Language of AdorationLove God with all your heart, soul, and mind

(3) Language of Grace Love others as you love yourself  (even when they are unlovable)

(4) Language of Discipleship Feed my sheep

(5) Language of Hope Tell the whole world Who I AM

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”(Mark 12:30-31)

An Amazon search of books about love and romance will return around 257 thousand results; clearly we are a people who are looking for love.  Our problem is that too many of us search for love in all the wrong places.  We  look to others to fill our need for that perfect love and when we don’t find it, we settle for something that masks itself as love but is anything but. The truth is that God created us in His image, He has put His love in our hearts that we might seek Him.

As Christ has loved us, we are called to love others.  Sharing the Gospel message with those who have nothing in which to trust, giving words of encouragement to those who have been beaten down by the world, speaking the message of hope to those who are hopeless,  –  this is the ultimate Language of Love.

~Sandra

Author: Sandra Bivens Smith

Christian Writer Speaker Small Group Leader/Teacher

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